How Are Strong Marriages Like Healthy Gardens?
June 1, 2017 by Don Lasell
This is a question that I often put to couples who attend the premarital workshops I present. I like the question because it requires what are called “higher order thinking skills” – a more effective way of engaging new information than simply receiving it in a rote learning format. The answers I receive to this […]Read more
Forgiveness: Release the Burden of Old Grudges
May 5, 2017 by Deborah Kors
Mary, happily married for 10 years, still harbors extreme bitterness towards an ex-boyfriend who cheated on her 20 years ago. Brett remains enraged with a supervisor that “didn’t appreciate” all of “the hard work” he had done many years earlier. Sheila is frequently at her “boiling point,” in response to the childhood emotional neglect she […]Read more
Male Midlife Crisis? Is It a Myth?
April 9, 2015 by Denis Boyd
Do men go through a midlife crisis? Is there research to support such a concept or is this an “urban legend?” The books “Passages” and “Seasons of a Man’s Life” were published several years ago but were based on small samples of investigation. Yet, men in their early 50s or 60s arrive in my counselling […]Read more
In Marriage It’s All About Balance
April 17, 2014 by Denis Boyd
Research on divorce found that divorcing couples complained about the very qualities they used to love in each other. The differences that had always been there, and that each had once admired in the other, were now seen as troublesome and unforgivable. These couples had now become polarized and resentful. Most couples I have met […]Read more